Love and Relationship Quote, February 2, 2017
Do you know the 5 Love Languages? Do you know your love language or your partner’s? Would you recognize the love language your partner is trying to communicate to you to show you his or her love? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, most of us have more than one love language but we have one main love language. If the following items below motivate you or your partner and make you feel validated then this is your love language. Missing opportunities to communicate can push us apart while understanding our partner’s love language can help bring us together and foster mutual understanding and better overall communication and strength.
- Words of Affirmation– are kind and supportive compliments. You can show them by writing a letter, sharing a compliment in front of others or even when your partner is not looking looking to help show their strengths and good qualities.
- Quality Time– spending one on one uninterrupted time together, making eye contact, and having meaningful conversation.This conversation should not include complaints, but shared ideas and getting to know your partner, without interrupting them. Ask questions that interest your partner. Pick an activity that your partner would enjoy and you wouldn’t mind doing.
- Receiving Gifts– This doesn’t have to be about money. You can give the gift of self. The gift can have meaning or be a symbol of your love. The gifts can be in a series such as during the week, month or year or something you gather along the way during a visit as long as they are meaningful to your partner.
- Acts of Service- are acts or kindnesses you do that you know your partner would like you to do to please or make their life easier somehow. This can be something as simple as doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, picking up the kids from daycare, keeping the car in running order, doing the yard work or dealing with the monthly bills. These acts require time, effort and planning. Can you think of another non chore act to make your partners life easier?
- Physical Touch- Although this seems obvious, there are many other parts of the body that are more sensitive than others. The tip of the tongue and fingertips are far more sensitive than the back of the shoulders for example. Also if your partner’s primary love language is physical touch, be sensitive, as you can communicate love and hurt much more quickly through touch. If your partner’s love language is not physical touch do not assume that it is or you will drive them away. You can provide many opportunities for physical touch by holding hands, sitting close, snuggling, and hugs in addition to lovemaking. (Chapman, 2010, pp.10- 120)